“How is it possible that I have everything I ever wanted when I was younger, and yet I am so desperately unhappy and unfulfilled?” she asked me.
“Last Monday, I came home from work in the evening. Mark tried to kiss me and tell me he loved me but I didn’t even want him near me and pushed him away.
Then my 5-year old came running over to say hi because he was happy to see me, and instead of giving him a hug, I snapped at him and told him to be quiet and go to his room. He started crying and ran upstairs.
My life has been a journey involving self-acceptance, trust, and overcoming addictions and coping mechanisms in order to experience connection with others. I was born in Seoul, Korea and given up when I was 5-months-old. I was adopted and grew up in a conservative white Christian family in a small town north of Seattle, WA. I struggled with abandonment issues and feelings of isolation when I was growing up. I came out as gay in my 20s, which created more strain on my already faltering relationship with my family. In my early adult life, I rebelled against the judgmental God from my childhood and eventually circled back to spirituality as an energy worker and life coach.
I have been practicing meditation for most of my adult life and have been counseling others for over 20 years. I am an avid student of Eastern religious philosophy and live my life practicing bhakti-yoga. I have two masters–one in Spiritual Psychology and the other in Clinical Mental Health. I spent much of my career as an IT engineer for a Fortune 500 company. This helped me bring a balance of both left and right-brained perspectives to the process of healing emotional pain. While I remain fascinated by metaphysics and the non-physical realm, I have found greater fulfillment in assisting others through tools such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and Inner Child work. My training in psychotherapy and energy work has helped me create an integrative approach to issues such as anxiety, couples communication, childhood trauma, and low self-esteem. At the root level, most of us struggle with unworthiness, and my work with clients focuses on limiting beliefs that keep us in maladaptive behavior patterns. I help you to realize that you are not fundamentally broken and teach you tools to move forward in new self-supporting ways.
My work with clients varies depending on what is present for the session. Most of my clients are navigating the sources of their anger, resentments, and anxiety. The patterns of your current relationships, with romantic partners or friends, are an indication of the belief patterns that got set in childhood. Working with reframing your thoughts about yourself and others will help create a new reality for you.
I am focused on building a solid relationship with you to help navigate any challenges that come up between sessions. As you gain awareness of your thought patterns and logic, and practice the tools to shift them, you will be able to more effectively navigate new problems as they arise. My primary goal is to teach you tools so that you no longer need me!
I have a Masters in Transpersonal (i.e. Spiritual) Psychology and have been practicing meditation and counseling since 2001. I am currently completing a second master’s in Clinical Mental Health in order to be a licensed therapist in the state of CA. I am also certified in multiple energy healing modalities, both as a practitioner and an instructor, which has given me a well-rounded perspective on how our consciousness perceives suffering.
Let’s chat together to see if we’re a good fit! Initial consultations are free and give us both a chance to feel what it would be like to work together. If you could wave a magic wand, what would you want to change in your life? By approaching these intentions with raw honesty and vulnerability, we can create shifts in your consciousness that will lay the groundwork for achieving your goals.
My ideal client is someone who is not afraid to seek out the root cause of their suffering. I find that most challenges in life funnel down to a few core issues, primarily stemming from childhood experiences that shape our beliefs and programs. Most of my clients are navigating people pleasing, low self-esteem, abusive upbringings, or childhoods where they were forced into ‘adult’ independence at a very young age. My work with couples focuses on helping you to resolve past resentments, and giving you tools to feel heard and understood.
Sessions can be done over the phone, via Zoom, or in person. I incorporate Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, which focuses on the thoughts that fuel your feelings. Being aware of your thought patterns, and the irrational logic behind them, sets the stage for shifts in your feelings and behaviors. Your feelings follow your thoughts–if you can choose different thoughts, then you will automatically experience different feelings.
I believe the path to healing is through empathy and human connection. In today’s society, we’re so focused on presenting an edited version of ourselves and many lack the courage to express themselves on even a small scale. So you keep yourself small, living a life of quiet desperation. Consumed with anxiety at the thought that you might make a mistake or express a ‘real’ side of you that will turn people away. By not being vulnerable, you aren’t able to receive love–others just love an edited version of yourself. You think, if they knew the *real* you, they would reject you. Empathy resolves that shame. Moving forward as an adult involves healing the trauma from your past and preserving the idea that you are worthy of love. Learning to share your pain and vulnerability, and being supported in the process, will create miracles in your life. We all need the milk of human kindness and understanding.
I have tried many different energy healing modalities myself, both as a client and as an instructor. I have seen more dramatic and permanent results with psychotherapy and getting to the root of your unwanted emotional and behavioral patterns. We all are seeking the milk of human kindness. Ultimately, you just want to be heard, understood, and cherished. I help you uncover the blocks that keep you from living a meaningful life and deep connections with others.
The Inner Child represents our right-brain, traditionally associated with feelings and creativity. In her book, Inner Bonding, Dr. Margaret Paul explained that the Inner Child is related to vulnerability, imagination, and being in touch with your feelings. You, as the Adult, can re-parent your Inner Child. You are the only person on the planet who can parent your Child effectively because you are the only one who knows everything they have endured. Processing your feelings and early experiences is imperative for nurturing your Inner Child. If your Inner Child has been abandoned, this can create a deep sense of unworthiness and patterns of blame. Your Child then becomes dependent on someone else for validation and identity, seeding beliefs that happiness comes from external sources. Dr. Paul also wrote, “One reason we don’t lovingly parent ourselves is that our Adult doesn’t want the job—we want someone else to make us okay.” Processing your story and being open to the wounds of your Inner Child is the most loving thing you can do for your Child. When we process our pain with qualified individuals and put our vulnerability in the hands of trusted friends, we then start to move forward from the crippling narratives of our past. We find peace and acceptance in all parts of our story, thus integrating all aspects of ourselves to become whole.
I am in the process of getting licensed in the state of CA. Currently, I am not yet a licensed psychotherapist. I do not prescribe any medication nor offer guidance for prescriptions.
Each session is 50 minutes. I do not require any additional commitment beyond one session. Clients generally work with me either once a week or every other week. My long-term clients do not have a set schedule but instead schedule time when they come up against a new challenge that triggers something unfamiliar. There are many layers that can be looked at when healing emotional pain. I believe that our suffering in life is all interconnected to a few core “root causes” from our early formative years.
My rate is $280 per session, and sessions last a little less than an hour. I accept HSA, credit, debit cards, and I do not take insurance.
Everyone has multi-faceted layers when it comes to healing, and the duration of our work together depends on how much time you are wanting to invest in yourself. I believe everyone has the ability to find the answers within themselves, when given effective learning tools. My intention is to give you tools you can use outside of our sessions, to help you navigate new challenges on your own. My goal is for you to no longer need me!
You do not have to commit to any number of sessions. My ideal client is one who is yearning for change in your life, and willing to bring awareness to patterns and beliefs that may come from your childhood, beliefs, or relationships. I have a limited number of hours available each week for clients, and I am desiring to only work with those who are seeking deep and immediate shifts in their lives.
Those who are not interested in improving their lives or healing their past trauma. My schedule does not allow me to accept all clients who seek my services. I do not work with those who are only seeking intuitive (i.e. psychic) readings or those who are seeking energy sessions. My work with each client varies depending on the client’s intentions. I listen very carefully to your thought patterns and underlying emotions, which gives me an idea of what would benefit us to focus on. Thus, it is critical that clients are willing to be vulnerable and honest with their present challenges.
Yes, I offer telehealth sessions, and my office is in Long Beach, CA, for those seeking in-person sessions.
Yes, I run my coaching practice in all 50 states.