Break the Cycle.
Build the Connection.
Master tools for emotional regulation, communication clarity, and real repair, in a practice community designed for couples, friends, or solo participants.
New book — Available for preorder
Why We Fight
A transformative road map to healing conflict in any relationship.
About Kim Polinder
Kim is an associate therapist, relationship coach, and author of Why We Fight (HarperOne, 2026). She specializes in couples communication, emotional regulation, and trauma healing — helping people understand their patterns and actually change them.
Join the PracticeWhat you'll gain in my practice community
Understand & Regulate
Learn how your nervous system, attachment history, and emotional triggers influence conflict. Then practice tools to regulate in real-time.
Connect & Communicate
Gain shared language and empathy skills to shift from reactivity to repair. Even if your partner isn't participating, you'll strengthen your side of the equation.
Resolve & Rebuild
Take the confusion and blame out of conflict with step-by-step frameworks for addressing resentment, offering meaningful apologies, and finding sustainable compromise.
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